At a retirement dinner that evening a long-time colleague toasts him, telling Schmidt he should feel “rich” to have devoted his life to something so meaningful. The look on Schmidt’s face says he’s not so sure. He once dreamed of having his own business, but instead chose the security of a steady paycheck.
A Universal Longing
Shortly after Schmidt’s retirement, his wife dies. The sudden changes—retirement, the loss of his wife of over forty years—leave Schmidt wondering even more about the meaning of his life.
“I know we're all pretty small in the big scheme of things,” he writes to Ndugu, a six-year-old Tanzanian orphan he sponsors in response to a television advertisement. “And I suppose the most you can hope for is to make some kind of difference, but what kind of difference have I made? What in the world is better because of me?”
Our culture would have us believe that life is about competition. It tells us that happiness is found in having more than we have now and more than others have. But as Nicholson’s character expresses so well, it’s contribution that we long for, a sense that we’re making a difference with our lives.
The Paths to Meaningful Work
I used to think there were two types of jobs in the world: meaningful jobs and all the rest. Meaningful jobs were ones in which the work itself helped people or helped solve one of the world’s great problems. Any other type of job was just a job. I now see it differently.
Some people do get the chance to do work that heals people, eradicates diseases, or other things that most would agree are inherently meaningful. However, there are many other types of jobs where great meaning can be found.
For some people, providing for their family makes their work meaningful.
For others, their relationships with co-workers bring meaning to their work.
For others, it’s how they use the fruits of their labor that gives them a sense of meaning. For example, I know a corporate attorney who lives far beneath her means in order to contribute significant time and money in a ministry that keeps kids out of gangs and helps homeless people get a new start.
For some couples, their joint decision to have one parent stay home to focus on their kids brings great meaning to both of their lives.
Meaning is an Inside Job
When we struggle to find meaning in our work, one possible cause is that we think meaning is something that our work should bring to us instead of us bringing meaning to our work.
In his book, Authentic Happiness, Psychologist Martin Seligman tells a great story of a hospital orderly who meticulously selected pictures for the walls of a room where a close friend of Seligman’s lay unconscious. The orderly explained, “I’m responsible for the health of all these patients. Take Mr. Miller here. He hasn’t woken up since they brought him in, but when he does, I want to make sure he sees beautiful things right away.”
This orderly viewed his work as integral to the healing of patients. Another orderly might think of his work as menial and meaningless. The first orderly saw his job as a calling; the second saw it as a source of income. The tasks are the same; only the perspective is different.
How do you view your work? Is the actual work you do inherently meaningful? Or, is your job a means to some other end that you find meaningful?
This article was originally published on Crosswalk.com.